一友常易动气责人。
先生警之曰：「学须反己。若徒责人，只见得人不是，不见自已非。若能反己，方见自己有许多未尽处，奚瑕责人？舜能化得象的傲，其机括只是不见象的不是。若舜只要正他的奸恶，就见得象的不是矣；象是傲人，必不肯相下，如何感化得他？」
是友感悔。
曰：「你今后只不要去论人之是非，凡当责辩人时，就把做一件大己私克去，方可。」
有一位朋友常容易动气责备人。
先生警示他说：「为学必须反求自己。若只是责人，只见得别人的不是，看不见自己的错。若能反求自己，才见自己有许多未尽之处，哪有闲工夫责人？舜能感化象的傲慢，关键只是不把象的不是放在眼里。若舜只要纠正他的奸恶，就见到象的不是了；象是个傲慢的人，必不肯甘居人下，怎么感化得了他？」
这位朋友感动悔悟。
先生说：「你今后只是不要去论别人的是非。凡要责备争辩别人时，就把这当作一件大的己私克去，才行。」
A friend was quick to flare and blame others.
The Master warned him: 'Learning must turn back upon oneself. Forever blaming, one sees only others' wrongs, never one's own. Turn back, and one finds oneself so unfinished — what leisure to blame? That Shun could melt Xiang's arrogance hung on one thing: he did not dwell on Xiang's wrongs. Had Shun set himself to correct his brother's perversity, Xiang's wrongs would have stood before him; an arrogant man will bow to no one — how then be transformed?'
The friend was moved to repentance.
He said: 'Henceforth do not discuss others' right and wrong. Whenever you would rebuke or dispute, treat that very impulse as a great selfishness to be mastered.'